you are able to love others,
you need a strong foundation of self love and self acceptance. When you
this firm foundation, you easily attract more love into your life.
you love & accept yourself
you set firm boundaries; the actions and words you hold others to. You
raise your own standards which include the actions, words and ideas you
yourself to. The higher level of boundaries and standards you have, the
quality of loving relationships you attract into your life.
want you to play with a
couple of ideas.
1st, listen to your thoughts about
yourself. Merely notice what you say to yourself about yourself. Do
the first two days this week. What
portion is positive? What portion of your thoughts is negative? What
Now I want you to bring up your
standards regarding your views about yourself. I want you to only think
thoughts about yourself that are categorically compassionate and
the rest of this week. If a negative thought sneaks in, approach it
lightness. Say to yourself something like; "Oh, thanks for sharing."
Then instantly convert that thought to something positive.
Observe how your
mind/emotions/body/spirit feel as you get completely positive about
Observe if you experience others
differently or if they experience you differently.
a statement once, a teaching,
by a very special man – Life is suffering.
no one who hasn't suffered. A
few are not aware of it; other people are intimately familiar with the
their heart. Other people seek – they look for more love,
more income, more
yet that's only the beginning of
his teaching. The remainder sends a message of hope – there's
a way out.
don't think that because
there's pain in your heart, fear in your mind, that there's something
with you. Everything I have determined over the past year points to one
lesson: the most personal, the gloomiest and the most painful
– is as well the
don't be ashamed of your pain,
or escape from it. Without it, you can't grow. Hold it; look profoundly
it; love it like a mother comforting her howling baby. With
compassion, you are able to start to heal your wounds, and the wounds
in pain can't see themselves
for what they are. They can't discover the beauty and the strength they
possess. It has been hidden in the haze, encompassed by the layers of
messages, overclouded by the pain.
people speak of my courage in
undertaking my particular journey. And yet what does my courage have to
it? It's your own courage that you see, that you're responding to.
basic premise in psychology, it's simple: you see in others what is
that in yourself. Have
respect for your courage. Think of it, always.
as well, to have compassion
for yourself. Be easy, be gentle. You're the first person who deserves
regardless what you believe, regardless what you think you have done.
if you've been hurtful, vindictive? You were hurtful because that's all
inside you. Begin to nourish yourself, fill yourself with love
– later the
hurtfulness and pettiness will disappear. What will spill over when
replaced the hate with kindness? Love.